SUPPORT WOMEN TO RE-ESTABLISH THEMSELVES

Supporting Victims of Domestic Violence | Jaida Love |

As a woman, we always seek respect, love and, happiness and freedom. As a mother, we want the best for our children and at times, the people we grew to love, honor and cherish - till death do we part, becomes the very thing that incites so much fear that you feel that it will be your death at the hands of this person which will cut you apart. 

Domestic Violence is a Global epidemic. 

Women are seeing more and more the changes in men after the 'Love Bombing" subsides and the real personality starts to present itself. 

There are stories of "why did you stay?", "why didn't you ask for help?", "what did you do to cause this" etc, however, if you have known or know someone who has gone through a domestic Violence relationship, these answers are not always clean cut. 

Fear, children, financial matters, isolation and sometimes love (yes love) keep you in these relationships. Neural pathways for women change and adjust to begin to accept this as their lives, continue to make excuses, unable to see an alternative life. Generally - it is the children's safety that brings the mother to gather the courage and strength to leave. 

Erotic IQ aims to educate men to establish a more conscious relating, a deeper understanding of self, a healthy respect for women and the ability to bring that relationship to a more amazing sense of wonder, love and passion that even the thought of an aggressive, hurtful, painful interaction with his lover, will result more in love, beauty and communication. Until Then, please support the below charities for women who are victims of Domestic Violence. 

Help for Victims of DV

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Help in the United Kingdom 

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Tens of thousands of victims and children are now safe, because of the changes SafeLives pioneered in our first ten years.

But there’s more to do to end domestic abuse.

That’s why our work continues:

  • We train domestic violence professionals, and run the flagship Idva qualification

  • We improve what happens on the ground, helping Maracs and local services be more effective

  • We help commissioners make better decisions that cut domestic abuse locally

  • We use our on-the-ground expertise and our data to get national policymakers to make better policy

We’re always on the look-out for great new ideas that stop domestic abuse. When we find them, we refine them and promote them widely, so that every family benefits.

For our first ten years, we focussed just on improving help for high-risk victims. But to end domestic abuse, we have to change the whole system – for every victim, and every family.

So our new strategy for 2015-18 commits us to do more.

We have to find every family where there is domestic abuse much more quickly. We have to help all victims and children get safe, and stay safe in the long term. We have to challenge perpetrators to stop their abusive behaviour. And we have to win over policymakers and commissioners, so that the right policies and funding are in place.

We won’t stop until all families are safe.

Find out where to get help if you're experiencing domestic violence.

Domestic violence, also called domestic abuse, includes physical, emotional and sexual abuse in couple relationships or between family members.

It's abuse if your partner or a family member:

  • threatens you

  • shoves or pushes you

  • makes you fear for your physical safety

  • puts you down, or attempts to undermine your self-esteem

  • controls you, for example by stopping you seeing your friends and family

  • is jealous and possessive, such as being suspicious of your friendships and conversations

  • frightens you

Where can you get help?

You don’t have to wait for an emergency situation to seek help. You can:

The Survivor's Handbook from the charity Women's Aid is free and provides information for women on a wide range of issues such as housing, money, helping your children, and your legal rights.

For forced marriage and "honour" crimes, contact Karma Nirvana (0800 5999 247) or The Forced Marriage Unit (020 7008 0151).

Broken Rainbow UK provides support to lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people experiencing domestic violence.

Anyone who needs confidential help with their own abusive behaviour can contact Respect on their free helpline on 0808 802 4040.

Support For Victims of Domestiv Violence in the U.S

f you are in immediate danger, please call 911.

If you need to speak with someone, call one of these hotlines.

Center Against Domestic Violence 24-Hour Hotline
1-718-439-1000

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
TTY: 1-800-787-3224

New York State Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline
English: 1-800-942-6906
English TTY: 1-800-818-0656
Spanish: 1-800-942-6908
Spanish TTY: 1-800-780-7660

New York City Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-621-4673 (All Languages)
TDD: 1-866-604-5350

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The Center began at a “speak out” in Brooklyn in 1976 where more than a hundred women told how their lives had been turned upside down by domestic violence. One thing became clear: There was no place where mothers could flee to safety with their children. In fact, it was against regulations to bring a child to the “unfit” environment of a shelter. A group of trailblazing women—domestic violence victims, survivors and advocates—set out to change all that and the Center was born.

The Center’s Women’s Survival Space, a place where abused women and their children could find safety, was the first of its kind in the State and is now the longest operating domestic violence emergency shelter in New York. Today the Center houses up to 1,000 women and children each year in three emergency shelters.

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Support For Victims of Domestic Violence in Australia

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 000 immediately. Help is available from many services in Australia. 
The following Domestic Violence Lines are gateway services that can put you in touch with the service right

1800 RESPECT or 1800 737 732 
The National Sexual Assault, Family & Domestic Violence Counselling Line is a free telephone and online confidential service for any Australian experiencing or who has experienced domestic or family violence and/or sexual assault. It is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Translating and Interpreting Service
National Call 13 14 50 and ask them to contact 1800 RESPECT

National Relay Service (for callers who are deaf or have a hearing or speech impairment) 
TTY/Voice Calls - phone 133 677 and ask them to contact 1800 RESPECT or 1800 737 732 
Speak and Listen - phone 1300 555 727 and ask them to contact 1800 RESPECT

Internet relay users 
Visit the National Relay Service website and ask them to contact 1800 RESPECT or 1800 737 732

VIC
1800 WDVCAS (1800 938 227).

ACT

Domestic Violence Crisis Service ACT
02 6280 0900
http://www.dvcs.org.au/

NSW

Domestic Violence Line
1800 65 64 63
http://www.domesticviolence.nsw.gov.au/home

QLD

DV Connect Women’s Line
1800 811 811
http://www.dvconnect.org/dvline
VIC

Women’s Domestic Violence Crisis Service
1800 015 188 or 03 9322 3555
http://www.wdvcs.org.au/

WA

Women’s Domestic Violence Helpline
08 9223 1188 or 1800 007 339

SA

Domestic Violence Crisis Service
1300 782 200

Domestic Violence and Aboriginal Family Violence Gateway

Service (including Domestic Violence Help Line)
1800 800 098

TAS

Family Violence Response Referral line 
1800 633 937
http://www.safeathome.tas.gov.au/about_us

NT

Dawn House
08 8945 1388

 

Mental health contact numbers

Carers Australia

1800 242 636

Short-term counselling and emotional and psychological support services for carers and their families in each state and territory.

Headspace

1800 650 890

Free online and telephone service that supports young people aged between 12 and 25 and their families going through a tough time.

MindSpot Clinic

1800 61 44 34

An online and telephone clinic providing free assessment and treatment services for Australian adults with anxiety or depression.

SANE Australia

1800 18 7263
Information about mental illness, treatments, where to go for support and help carers.
Support after Suicide

Information, resources, counselling and group support to those bereaved by suicide. Education and professional development to health, welfare and education professionals.

QLife

1800 184 527

3pm-12am

QLife is Australia’s first nationally-oriented counselling and referral service for LGBTI people. The project provides nation-wide, early intervention, peer supported telephone and web based services to diverse people of all ages experiencing poor mental health, psychological distress, social isolation, discrimination, experiences of being misgendered and/or other social determinants that impact on their health and wellbeing.

We need to stop violence against women before it happens

This is the work of primary prevention and it is where the work of White Ribbon Australia is focused.

What is primary prevention?

Prevention and response to violence can be classified in a number of ways, for example:

Primary prevention action is implemented before violence against women occurs and aims to stop the likelihood of men and boys using violence against women and girls. This prevention action does this by addressing the root causes of violence[i]. The White Ribbon social movement and programs focus on primary prevention.

Definitions of secondary prevention and tertiary prevention can be found in the Primary Prevention factsheet.

Primary prevention at work

Examples of primary prevention include:

  • public information and awareness raising campaigns

  • educational programs in schools

  • programs in workplaces

  • government policy establishing frameworks and standards for preventing violence against women[ii] and promoting gender equality.

Through education, awareness raising and creative campaigns, preventative programs, partnerships and political advocacy, White Ribbon Australia highlights the positive role men can play to stop violence against women and enables them to be part of this social change.

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